IS LOVE PROMISCUOUS UNTIL PROVEN MONOGAMOUS

ok ladies..since i've been bedridden for sickly purposes, i have sunk my teeth in a very juicy television show on Starz. It is called "Sparticus Blood and Sand" which tells the story of a man who betrays the Roman Army, defeats four gladiators when he was suppose to die, and gets sold into slavery to become a gladiator himself.

Now the story itself is AMAZING!!, but the culture of Roman time(especially the intimacy) was quite entertaining and shocking at the same time. Everyone making love, screwing, fucking without a care and the only way a woman would be a whore is if she was casted into the class of a whore or cheated on her spouse and was found out. But even so, some of the spouses in the show slept or started four-play with (sex)slaves. They also had orgies and had sex with each other while others watched. KINKY RIGHT! of course, in this day and time, you could never do anything of the sort freely and openly without some type of discretion or judgement. Woman would never be     

aloud to openly sleep with a man because she was horny and then ravish another man in the bathroom of her home while her best friend watched! That today, would be unsavory. She would instantly be named a "slut". Its so hard to believe in Roman times woman of hire class had the most lovers.

But what does this all come down to? Our history has completely changed over time concerning intimacy between the opposite sexes. Today we are kept in little boxes of descency and monogamous relationships. Where apparently the eye constantly wonders on both sides. No dont get me wrong there have been some cases of true love...to love one and only one for the rest of your life, but if it wasnt so..would you?

If monogamous love wasnt forced on us and the rule was to practice promiscuity, would it be easier to be monogamous? Is love actually promiscuity?

Loving as much people as you possibly could, sharing your love with anyone you wanted and not feel so pressured to pick just one? Men not being such the enemy, because they operate according to nature oppose to women not being so hell bent on the idea of just relying on one relationship and actually having fun. Not worrying about their reputation being soiled in society. What if we have been living the wrong way when it comes to love. Pressing this issue of monogamy and ruling out promoscuity as if it were a disease. How would you react to a world that was completely free of intimate exhibition?

THE GIRL IN THE WHITE GLOVES VS. THE GIRL IN THE RED DRESS...

Alot of the times I see women in bars or at lounges with these scandolous yet fabulous ensembles on. I mean dress way above the knee, cleavage shown in a low v-cut, and heels on a stairway to heaven. Then on the other side of the nightlife scene, I see these other women, covered up, prestine, mid-heel and cute little hair-do's. Now, what woman gets more attention? The woman with the prestine white glove look or the woman with the sexified red dress look?

I guess its a question of moral value and what you will stand for.

BUT!!...

Is the woman in the red dress get up merely just on the prow for a man and the woman in the prestine white glove approach trying to detect herself of the doggy meter?

what are the meanings of this?

I have reached out to my male and female companions:

The males basically state that the woman in the red dress is just looking for some attention, because she is probably confident in her body and wants to show it off. 

I ask them does it look like the woman is trying to say something or does she symbolize something for the male figure?

Majority of them thought the woman in the red dress was into having a good time way more than the woman in the white gloves.

In other terms they used one seemed to stick out like a sore thumb,

"FREAK"

she's a freak, definitely a freak (quoted).

Now what about the woman in the white gloves

it seems she is very covered up not leaving much out, so she is pretty much leaving some things for the imagination. Usually making her "wifey material".

Although the men did state she was indeed someone they would consider being with long-term, opposed to Ms. Red Dress, but that is a step most men in their 20s are not ready to commit too. So White Gloves would most definitely be going home alone, while the other would be getting her car tuned up nice lol.

The womens prospective on the whole thing was completely different. The woman in the red dress would definitely be going home alone, because she was somebodies whore and/ or definitely trying too hard to graps attention of the male suitors around her. While the woman in white gloves, would be the center of attention, because she was leaving more to the imagination and guys love the mystery. 

(WELL WERENT THEY WRONG!!)

Ladies!!, men love visual. Majority of the time it is a visual aspect for them. 

A man once told me" when a woman speaks, a man hears a symphony. when a man speaks a woman hears his words". which means beyond certain key words that men are listening out for, they are not listening to you half the time and we hang on to their every word! 

Now, im not saying dont listen to men and im not saying go out with your cooter hanging out to get a nice tune up, but i am saying wear something that compliments your figure and exhilerates your skin(or something that you like about yourself that makes you shine!!). And if you have a thigh highed dress on, dont have your cleavage hanging out(vice versa). You dont have to walk out like a slut, but you dont have to look like you came straight from the nunistry either! Be confident and your radiance will brighten up that smokey lounge or bar. As we all know being sexy is not looking the part, its being the part. It comes from the inside, and if you dont have it within...TRUST ME HUNNI..YOU DONT HAVE IT!!!...  

THE MAN OF YOUR CHOICE...

What most women don't know or fail to realize is that men are simple. Simple creatures who like simple things and do not(I repeat  DO NOT!) pay any attention to detail like most women do. On the other hand we also know women are completely complex we say things and we mean them, we want things a certain way and  we expect to get them how we ask of them. Although this is a very good way to be at times it can be slightly overwhelming to the male (in other words, his big brain can't function the demands), because it's not a simple task. For example, asking to take out the trash while he is watching a game or asking to have a serious conversation while he is playing a video game. These are all examples of a man not paying attention to detail, therefore not meeting your needs. As a woman, this would make you feel some type of way, but dont fear, because MANEATER IS HERE!! LMAO.

Now, a man will do pretty much anything you ask when in the honeymoon period for these reasons:

1. you havent given up the cooter

2. he wants to be on his best behavior

3. he is actually enjoying the honeymoon period

4. the cooter is fantastic(if you have already given it up)

Basically saying the relationship is fresh and new, and all of us women know when the "HP" has begun, we tend to open up. Become more cuddly and needy and loving and blah...blah..blah..

So at this point the man thinks he has got you, so the comfortable stage begins:

1. he doesn't call as much

2. majority of your talks has fallen on texting

3. he ignores what you say sometimes

4. the dates become less and less outdoors and more in his bedroom

5. the sweet nothings and love notes have faded

6. the i love you's seem more and more rehearsed and forced

7. holding hands is now only on special occasions

8. (the ultimate!) when his friends are over you become the maid instead of the girlfriend, if your even invited or when they are around anymore.

These things can be very upsetting to a woman and can almost leave your relationship stalled and your confused wondering what the hell you did.

but don't be fustrated ladies I have the trick.

1. When the "HP" begins you take this time to get to know him:

yes be persistant, but don't develop your future plans around his life

2. Take your time with your Love Box:

of course, it is obvious you are attracted to him but dont jump on his disco stick the first week or two you start going out let him sweat alittle.

3. Be sexy for yourself:

don't just start being sexy once your in a relationship..shave those legs..get a bikini wax..get your hair and nails done..enjoy yourself alittle ;)

4. Have some girl time:

now ladies, i know when you first get a man you want to be all about him and its so hard not to text him or call just to say "i miss you", "was just thinking about you", but it has to be done. give your phone to a trusted friend and go have a good time. if its not your parent of some emergency dont answer it. yes he will be alittle upset but simple "my phone was on vibrate" or "______ was holding my phone the whole night my bag was full". Every move is not necessary for him to know..PLUS! if you follow this rule to the appropriate rate and not abuse it. i gaurantee he will be more punctual to your QT(Quality Time) schedule.

5. STOP making a big deal out of everything:

nobody likes a fussy tantrum priss puss, if you dont like something, don't embarrass him in front of his posse. thats probably why your not invite when they are around. when he wants something from you, which will be shortly after they leave. slightly bring it up.

6. Dont use words like:

we need to talk!

1st of all!

why did you!

how could you!

you better!

you know what you did!

***guys dont respond well to these types of words, because it sets off a signal like they are in trouble so they alert for defense and ready to kick your emotional wall to the ground.**

TRY:

hey babe you know that night when you said_______well, it kind of hurt me, i felt alittle uncomfortable, because______

***with this or something easier along these lines will help you get a conversation going because he is relaxed and ready to listen. he doesn feel threatened and you are allowed to say how you feel without sounding like the crazy girlfriend soon to be EX!.

THE BEGINNING: SEPERATION OF THE MAN AND THE WOMAN..

I'm on a mission, to be a great writer of course, but also put women in a prospective that they have cleary not grapsed yet. In the 21st century we still see women playing the back field to men and if you ask me its alittle pathetic. Now not to be rude to our extremely well gamed men, who clearly have been playing games since they were able to hold a controller and scream obscene remarks at the television or computer screen. But really!, men have had the upper hand on women for so long because they have a grasp on what I would like to call the "EQC",(Emotional Quivilency Card). what is the "EQC" you ask? It is merely a card which checks and holds their emotions so it never gets out of hand or comes out at the wrong time.

Now women would be on top or at least equally challenging if we had this card, but unfortunately our mental stability is not based around logic. It is based around emotion. Even if woman claim to not be emotionally bound they still feel it when their friends are not around (i dont give a shit what they say they do!).

But have no fear ladies, I will give you something that you can hold, dissect, and learn from as you go along your life of being fashionable,popular and in your 20s.

I will teach you the game..

The will power to say no to that good dick(even when you dont want to lol)

The stamina to be a woman in the NOW!

The assets to find your own path with or without a man present..

AND FINALLY!!!..

THE CONFIDENCE!!! to be your own woman and find the man or dump the man of your dreams or your worst nightmare.

and we are going to do this while you answer your own questions..other peoples opinions and of course "yours truly".

NOW JOIN LADIES AND DONT BE AFRAID..THIS IS NOT A MALE BASHING SITE..THIS IS A WOMAN'S GROWTH BLOG AND EMPOWERMENT TO BE AS FORTUNATE AND SUCCESSFUL AS THE NEXT MAN OR WOMAN YOU SEE SO EXTRMELY HAPPY WITH HER NEW BOY TOY, LOVER, FIANCEE, OR BOYFRIEND.